You feel like a loser because you have lost the love of your life. You know you can never put things straight again. You know that it was your fault, though not entirely maybe. The beautiful feeling of being loved by someone is lost. You are aching to get it back but you know you know it is only a dream. Your dream can turn into reality if you follow these simple rules.
Stay Away For a While
You may be feeling like meeting your ex or calling them up and giving all sorts of explanations to convince them that you never had the intention to hurt them. This will actually irritate your ex because right now they just want to be away from you and let the anger or hurt settle. So you should rather give them the space and time to cool down, and only then approach them with caution.
Don't Defend Yourself
Once you get the chance to meet them or talk to them, don't try to defend your words or actions which they find irritating or hurtful. Apologize for your mistakes and tell them you will try not to repeat them. Also, don't try to argue with them about their faults or criticize them for their mistakes. Let the past take a backseat if you want a happy future.
Stand Up For Your Ex
Assure them of your unconditional support as a friend. They should be able to reach you with any problem. Help them to the best of your ability and let them feel guilty for dumping you.
Take Help from Friends
If you have mutual friends, tell all of them how badly you want your ex back and how much you still love them. Let them know you have changed the way your ex wants you to. Your friends will definitely do their bit to try and get the two of you back together.